Your relationship may feel like it is at a crisis point where divorce or separation is on the table. You may find yourself wondering what happened to your relationship where ending it is a possibility.

When a partnership hits a crisis point, it is common for one partner to be “leaning-out” and thinking that ending the relationship may be the best way to move forward while the other partner may find themselves “leaning-in” and wanting to preserve the relationship. Research demonstrates that 75% of divorces are a unilateral decision made by one spouse.

If you find yourself in this situation- either as the leaning in or leaning out partner- it’s a challenging place to be. You or your partner may not be ready to work on the relationship or to commit to the time and energy needed for couples counseling.

Fortunately, there is a unique way of helping you: Discernment Counseling. It is a short-term process (one to five sessions) with the goal of greater clarity and confidence in the decision about a direction for the relationship, based on a deeper understanding of what has happened to the relationship and each partner’s contributions to the problems. It’s different than couples therapy which is aimed at improving your relationship and bringing you closer together- instead, the focus is on helping you figure out whether your problems can be solved and whether you both want to try to make things better.

You are only committing yourself to one session at a time, up to five sessions maximum. The first session is two hours long and each additional session is 1.5 hours.